“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.”
-- Joseph Campbell
** Criticism stings. Often our initial reaction is to be defensive followed by a desire to strike back – We cut off communication with that person or lash out in anger because our feelings are hurt and the criticism knocks us sideways. But as in the story “The Princess and the Pea”, somewhere below the surface, hidden deep inside the critique, there may be a kernel of truth and that little gem (or if you prefer to call it a pea as in the Princess’s story) is what is agitating and rubbing us the wrong way.
After a few minutes of denial, reaction and upset with the other person, taking a deep breath & notice what possible truth could be hidden in the words that have been spoken.... "the truth will set you free" .... search that out and stay with the truth of it as opposed to whatever comes up around what you wish or think the other person should or should not do - that's THEIR business and it's not for you to change them or make them any different than they are. You only have control over what you do, how you react, what you make of any given situation. If you're able to drop your hurt feelings and recognize the truth in what was said, you'll find a peacefulness within the truth, within yourself.
“Ideas are like fish.
If you want to catch little fish, you can stay in the shallow water.
But if you want to catch the big fish, you've got to go deeper.
Down deep, the fish are more powerful and more pure. They're huge and abstract. And they're very beautiful.”
– David Lynch
** The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead -- Well written, interesting story, informed by personal accounts left behind by those who were slaves back in the day. These are the fabric of a fictitious story, and Colson’s book unfolds a picture that is beauty, brutal and insightful and well worth reading or listening to on Audible.
Painting by welmoet