If you think the cause of your problem is 'out there,' you'll try to solve it from the outside.
Take the shortcut: solve it from within. ~ Byron Katie
* Challenge yourself – Take 2 minutes today (every day) to call or stop by and say hello, give a hug, or let somebody know you appreciate them. NOTHING takes the place of sharing time and making a personal connection with somebody— our world has less and less of this and we need it more and more 💗
* How we support one another -- Have you ever come home at the end of a long day feeling completely exhausted and stressed? When you talk to your partner about it, what do you say? How do they react?
So often we wish those who are close to us would ‘be there’ for us in specific ways and yet, it isn’t always obvious what exactly that means. If you have good communication skills & understandings established, your partner may ask “what can I do to help you feel better?” But, for many of us, that is not the first response and we may end up feeling more alone & without the understanding or support of the person closest to us.
If you are the person needing support : first of all, speak up. Find your voice and be specific in letting them know what it is you need from them. Your partner isn’t a mind reader and may not have any idea what it is you need so your input really helps them be successful in supporting you.
--I’m feeling overwhelmed and could really use a hug from you right now.
– I need to talk this thing through and would appreciate it if you’d listen – just listen. That support would really help me work through this.
– It would really help me process XYZ if we could go somewhere, take a walk together and talk this thing through.
If you are the supportive partner : When you notice the other person struggling, rather than run for the hills to avoid the tension "in the air", simply ask if there is something you could do to make them feel better.
There’s nothing better than to feel that somebody you care for, is there for you and often it’s the simple things (like a hug, a thoughtful question, or being able to quietly listen without laying out opinions & solutions) that can make all the difference to the person who’s struggling or hurting.
* For those interested in participating in the next creative workshop that I’ll be hosting, go here – https://www.805sanctuary.com/single-post/2017/10/23/New-Workshops-- I’ve 2 starting end of November, one on a Thursday and one on a Saturday and both will be using collaging to address anxiety & fear.
“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and
you help them to become what they are capable of being.” ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe