Getting tangled up in your own thinking?
"Who makes the problem grow bigger?
Sometimes, we exaggerate our problems.
For example, one day you met a friend and soon he started complaining to you about a misfortune as if it was the biggest problem ever. But you thought to yourself, "Well, it's actually not that bad!"
Ten minutes later, it was your turn to speak and before long you also began to grumble about an unhappy situation, as if it was the biggest problem ever. This time, however, it was your friend who said "Wait! You are making such a big deal out of a tiny issue!"
How many of you feel that currently you are facing a problem in your life and this problem is very, very serious?
Now, imagine your friend is facing the same problem. What advice will you give your friend? For example, if you have lost your job, imagine your friend has lost his job and is lamenting to you. What advice will you give to him?
Now, let's try an interesting exercise to see how our mind produces problems:
First, extend your right arm forward with your thumb sticking out. Then cover your left eye with your left hand. Now, move your right thumb slowly towards your right eye. Move your thumb closer and closer, until it nearly touches your eyelid. You will see that your right thumb is getting bigger and bigger, until the only thing that you can see is your right thumb.
Our mind is like that. It is the aversion and grasping which make our problems grow bigger."
~Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche